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Q & A with Emily

What do you love about your work

There is no monotonous 9-5 or chance to get bored because I have the opportunity to work with the most amazing people! I really love the variety of the weddings that I’m involved with, and how each ceremony reflects the couples perfectly.  It is so special to be able to make someone’s dream day become a reality.  Not many people have this opportunity, and I am very lucky to be one of them.

What is your favourite wedding

I don’t really have a favourite as they are all so unique, but the most memorable was on top of the mountain, Montsec in Spain.  We had a rather anxious groom the night before when the cloud was predicted to be lower than the peak where we were heading for the ceremony!  However, on the morning, the sun was shining brightly, and the skies were clear.  The ceremony was gorgeous, with the bride and groom framed by a breathtaking vista of the countryside and clear blue lakes below.

What is your most loved wedding reading?

I love this extract from Les Miserables by Victor Hugo.

You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness. We pardon to the extent that we love. Love is knowing that even when you are alone, you will never be lonely again. And great happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Loved for ourselves. And even loved in spite of ourselves.

What music do you love for the couples exit

I am a bit of a fan of live music, especially the harp, which is why we had a harpist during our ceremony.  We left to Better Together by Jack Johnson as I think it is an uplifting and happy piece that everyone knows (and I knew that I wouldn’t cry!).

However, with my work hat on, my favourite exit has to be when all the guests were invited to join in a singalong of Delilah by Tom Jones.  I had to make sure the microphone was turned off so I could join in at full pelt as well!

What is the best thing about what you do?

Meeting so many wonderful people and being privileged to play such an important part in their special day.  I am smiling whilst answering as I’m thinking back over the many couples and families that I have met over the past few years.  I feel energised by their love and commitment to each other.  Watching the grooms crumble when they’re not expecting it, and seeing a sea of happy faces throughout the ceremony.  It’s an amazing experience; so much more than just a job.

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Q & A with Dianne

Dianne what do you love about your work?

Having spent years at the beginning of the exciting journey to marriage by helping brides choose their perfect dresses.  I realised I wanted to be  more involved in that journey, which is why I decided to become a wedding celebrant and I now have the greatest pleasure of helping a couple plan and execute a ceremony which is the start to a perfect day  which the couple will remember and treasure for the rest of their lives.

I really love meeting couples who are already married but who have decided they would like to strenthen their commitment to each other by renewing their vows.  It is heartening to listen to their individual stories of marriage, with all of life’s ups and downs and to help them create a ceremony that will tell all their family and friends their love story and to let everyone know just how much they love each other and reinforce their commitment to spending the rest of their lives together.

What is your Favourite wedding:

I don’t think I can select any one ceremony as they are all very special in their own way, although perhaps the most unusual ceremony seems to be the most memorable as one where I didn’t meet the couple until the day before the wedding as they lived abroad and we had been communicating via Skype,  so it was a complete surprise to find that the bride was very heavily pregnant with twins!  I carried out most of the ceremony hoping I wouldn’t have to ask if there was a doctor in the house!

What is your most loved wedding Reading:

I always suggest the couple have a reading but they aren’t necessary.  If they opt to include a reading then I think the best readings are the ones written by their family or friends as these are often so much more personal and some can be very amusing!

What Music do you love for a couples exit?

I think that every couple has that one piece of music that is “their song” so I always  encourage them to choose a song or piece of music which has a special meaning for them – but if not; then I really love “Signed, Sealed, Delivered, I’m Yours” by the wonderful Stevie Wonder.  This song always gets everyone singing along as the couple walk down the aisle together.

What is the best thing about what you do?

What could be better than meeting a couple at the start of a magical journey and helping them create a ceremony which is personal to just the two of them and then having the privilege of sharing their day with them and all their family and friends and presenting them to everyone as a married couple!

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Q & A with Heather

Heather what do you love about your work?

I love the fact that no 2 ceremonies are ever the same! Each ceremony is tailored around the couple, and is so unique and personal to them and really reflects who they are as a couple! I love seeing their faces as they greet each other for the first time at the start of the ceremony – it’s a really special moment and I get the best seat in the house for that part!

What is your favourite wedding?

My own wedding, conducted by Louise was pretty epic 🙂

But for me it has to be a ceremony I conducted last summer in a private chapel within the gardens of the couple’s house.  They had spent years lovingly restoring he chapel from a ruin to it’s former glory, and has always hoped they could get married there.  It was such a beautiful moment to see the Bride walk down the aisle and say I do in front of all their family friends knowing how much they had put into making that moment a real dream come true!

What is your most loved wedding reading?

I really love the reading Maybe, as I feel it has such a beautiful sentiment – I had this at my own wedding: Maybe… 

Maybe we are supposed to meet the wrong people before we meet the right one so when they finally arrive we are truly grateful for the gift we have been given. 

Maybe its true that we don’t know what we have lost until we lose it but it is also true that we don’t know what we’re missing until it arrives. 

Maybe the happiest of people don’t have the best of everything, but make the best of everything that comes their way. 

Maybe the best kind of love is the kind where you sit on the sofa together, not saying a word, and walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you ever had. 

Maybe once in a lifetime you find someone who not only touches your heart but also your soul, someone who loves you for who you are and not what you could be. 

Maybe the art of true love is not about finding the perfect person, but about seeing an imperfect person perfectly.

There’s also a great one called The Lovely Dinosaur by Edward Monkton which I’ve heard couple’s ask friends to read and they often change the words to reflect the couple’s interests, one that always gets a smile and an ahhhhhh at the end!

What music do you love for the couples exit?

I love it when couple’s chose something a bit different for their big exit – something upbeat that gets everyone up and dancing and ready to party!

What is the best thing about what you do?

The best thing is the freedom being am independent celebrant gives our couples.  The fact they are not tied to any set rules means that we can do some really creative, imaginative and beautiful ceremonies, literally anywhere anytime, anyplace! To be a small part of their special day is a real privilege and I feel very lucky to do the work I do!

About Independent Celebrant/Wedding Celebrant/Civil Celebrant

I decided to share a little information about Independent or Civil Celebrants and why we are growing within the Wedding and Celebration Industry. 

Having made the leap from being a Registrar performing and recording legal marriages and civil partnerships which adhere to strict regulations to becoming fully independent civil celebrants who meet couples and families and are free to create a much more personal celebration ceremony was an easy step for myself, Cate and Heather.  We all share something in common – we absolutely love meeting people, listening to what they want for their ceremonies and we are all creative, confident public speakers.

Why is using an independent celebrant or humanist becoming more popular?

It’s becoming more important than ever for couples and families to have a say in what is said, read and listened to within their ceremony.  What is important to you is important to us.  Our ceremonies allow you as a couple or family to have a much more personal and relaxed celebration which can include all the wording, music and readings which you have always dreamed of.  You can also include and create something much more unique and memorable for you and your guests.  Meeting and getting to know who will be performing your ceremony is key, forming a relationship with your celebrant helps with any nerves. 

Something which I know you some of you might not have thought about, but some of you have…. What will our celebrant wear?  I can reassure you that myself, Cate & Heather love to dress well for your occasion and take great pride in our appearance.

louise.burns@theceremonycompany.org.uk  www.theceremonycompany.org.uk

Alternative Wedding Ideas

Handfasting

The Truth and the Myths

Have you ever wondered where the term “tying the knot” comes from? Or watched the film Braveheart when Mel Gibson’s character is tied to his beloved in a woodland with a strip of tartan?

Handfasting ceremonies are increasing in popularity.  I think couples are choosing to include this ritual to make their ceremony much more personal and inclusive of family and friends. 

I have had great pleasure in creating my very own style of handfasting, one which is used by both Heather and Cate, my two fantastic Associates.  We have not aligned ourselves to any one religion but we are open and support our couples’ beliefs and ideas.  Although we don’t perform Pagan Ceremonies we are very happy to incorporate any rituals couples would like, as we would never wish to exclude any one.

In ancient times couples were tied together to symbolise their commitment or marriage, for a much longer period than we adhere to today. Can you imagine being tied to your partner for 24 hours?

Following a short legal marriage, a couple can choose to have their personal handfasting wedding ceremony anywhere at all.  After an introduction and welcoming, an explanation is given to all guests about what to expect.  This keeps all guests relaxed and ensures their attention.  The couple can exchange their wedding rings and then the celebrant will ask specially chosen or all of their invited guests to bring a ribbon forward and place them over their joined hands, each can represent a meaning or blessing.  Once all the ribbons have been placed over the wrists, one guest is chosen to make the binding (tie the ribbons together in a knot around the couples’ hands). 

Don’t worry! The ribbons are removed after the ceremony is brought to a close so that the happy couple can enjoy the rest of their special day.  The coloured ribbons, however, remain tied forever as a beautiful keepsake which can be displayed as a reminder within their home.

If you would like more information about handfasting or any other alternative wedding ideas, please do get in touch.

louise.burns@theceremonycompany.org.uk  www.theceremonycompany.org.uk