Alternative Wedding Ideas

Handfasting

The Truth and the Myths

Have you ever wondered where the term “tying the knot” comes from? Or watched the film Braveheart when Mel Gibson’s character is tied to his beloved in a woodland with a strip of tartan?

Handfasting ceremonies are increasing in popularity.  I think couples are choosing to include this ritual to make their ceremony much more personal and inclusive of family and friends. 

I have had great pleasure in creating my very own style of handfasting, one which is used by both Heather and Cate, my two fantastic Associates.  We have not aligned ourselves to any one religion but we are open and support our couples’ beliefs and ideas.  Although we don’t perform Pagan Ceremonies we are very happy to incorporate any rituals couples would like, as we would never wish to exclude any one.

In ancient times couples were tied together to symbolise their commitment or marriage, for a much longer period than we adhere to today. Can you imagine being tied to your partner for 24 hours?

Following a short legal marriage, a couple can choose to have their personal handfasting wedding ceremony anywhere at all.  After an introduction and welcoming, an explanation is given to all guests about what to expect.  This keeps all guests relaxed and ensures their attention.  The couple can exchange their wedding rings and then the celebrant will ask specially chosen or all of their invited guests to bring a ribbon forward and place them over their joined hands, each can represent a meaning or blessing.  Once all the ribbons have been placed over the wrists, one guest is chosen to make the binding (tie the ribbons together in a knot around the couples’ hands). 

Don’t worry! The ribbons are removed after the ceremony is brought to a close so that the happy couple can enjoy the rest of their special day.  The coloured ribbons, however, remain tied forever as a beautiful keepsake which can be displayed as a reminder within their home.

If you would like more information about handfasting or any other alternative wedding ideas, please do get in touch.

louise.burns@theceremonycompany.org.uk  www.theceremonycompany.org.uk

2016 Top Five Readings for Wedding Ceremonies

I wondered what my first blog should be about, so when I sat down and thought what is it that I get asked about most or for guidance with by couples ….. it didn’t take long ….. readings…

What to include, not include, should it be religious, emotional, funny or romantic? These are all questions couples ask. Finding the right reading for your ceremony is so important. 

These are the top five readings which have been included by couples within 2016 Wedding Ceremonies.

Number One – The Lovely Other Dinosaur

This is by far the most popular and I love it.  It is a children’s book but the meaning within is utterly lovely and funny.  Many couples have chosen to update the original story to include content which relates directly to them (which resonates with them and their family and friends). It is one that when asked I always recommend.

Number Two – Corinthians 13

Although this is a religious reading about Love, I believe that the sentiment within still stands today.  It is a powerful reading which has been included in Marriages for years.  Although this reading is not allowed to be used within a Legal Marriage by a Local Authority Registrar,  an independent celebrant can include it within their semi religious ceremony. The couple can have any reading they choose.  I have to say I do love this reading.

Number Three – The Mayonnaise Jar and the Wine/Beer

I don’t think that I will ever tire of this reading, I love the meaning of the golf balls/ping pong balls, the pebbles the sand and the wine/beer.  It is important for a couple to remember that there is always time to spend with friends sharing a beer or glass of wine or two!

Number Four – I like you

This reading is adorable and has increased in popularity over time.  It is both appropriate for a wedding and fun with the added sentiment.  It always makes me smile

Number Five – He Never Leaves the Seat Up

This always gets guests smiling as it is a very entertaining poem.  If the couple are young they will laugh along with guests at the

There are lots of readings that didn’t make my top five which are fantastic and if they are chosen by the couple or the reader for the couple any reading is wonderful.  It brings personality to a ceremony and if read correctly can bring a sense of emotion or fun to any ceremony. 

The one that almost made the list “Marriage is Like Owning a Dog”  a favourite of The Ceremony Company celebrants as we are dog lovers!